Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands. Proverbs 14:1
A foolish woman tears her own house down. Why would a woman tear down her house?
Unlike the Big Bad Wolf in the story ofTheThree Little Pigs who fully intends to blow down those houses when he huffs and he puffs, most of us women don’t realize what we are doing when we nag and complain about our husbands.
I’ll be honest. I’ve been guilty. I’m ashamed to say it. But I have basically torn my husband apart with my own mouth. As women, we need each other to confide in, to share our hearts, our cares, our concerns, our frustrations. And that can often mean unloading a bit about our husbands. We need to be honest. We need to be real. I believe that’s healthy. After all, we can work with honestly. But if we’re not careful, we will turn our sounding boards that we call friends into dumping ground for pinned up anger and often bitterness we hold towards our husbands.
As Christian women, we need to encourage one another to be honest and real about those little foxes that can sneak into our marriage vines and attempt to spoil them. Together, we can learn how to catch those sneaky foxes. Let’s validate each others feelings without enabling the destruction of our own homes.
And most of all, let’s remember that as we concentrate on building rather than tearing down: Except the Lord build the house, they labour in vain that build it. Psalm 127: 1a
I’d like to start by saying, Joe, I realize that all of my nag, nag, nagging has been equivalent to building a house with stick or straw. I don’t want to tear you down! I love you! And I’m thankful for your faithfulness, hard work and patience with our marriage and our home. You are THE BEST HUSBAND EVER! Oh…and thanks for always letting me drink the rest of your Diet Coke. Your Angel
…A wise woman builds her house upon the ROCK…
Hey Rena!
This is not your sterotypical “encouraging” comment, but it is a Bible verse that has kept me on my toes (and on my face!). It’s also kinda funny… and kinda true… So, here’s to you:
It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman. Prov 21:19
and
It is better to dwell in the corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman and in a wide house. Prov. 25:24
See – funny and true and helpful and convicting. I’m going to repent now… Have a nice day.
Love, LAURA
PS – I might be starting to resent the little button below this comment box that tells me to “SUBMIT” What’s up with that?
LA
YOU’RE killing me once again!
OH, I’m all too familiar with these verses! I’ve even been quick to remind the other members of the household about it. Kinda’ funny, huh??? But the fact is, if mom ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy! So, perhaps in doing so, I’m being a bit manipulative? It gets kinda’ old knowing that as women, we’re the ones who are “brawling”. And yes, I agree, SUBMIT? Couldn’t there be another choice???
Ran across your blog via Lysa’s links. Thanks for the remider–the house of sticks that is not on a firm foundation! I so want to build that house of bricks–or rather, have God build that house on the ROCK!.. Nice to meet you! God bless!
Hi!
Thanks for coming by!
This post is a great reminder. We do need to be careful about how we talk to our friends about our husbands. Having a friend who will pray with you can be such a big help.
And I love your note to your husband at the end. Super sweet.
Blessings!
K